UHNW & HNW Women: No Romance Without Finance

UHNW & HNW Women
No Romance Without Finance

How many of you affluent women remember the song ‘Nothing Going On But The Rent’ sung by the sassy Ms. Gwen Guthrie. I do. I remember it the first time around during my young adult life living in London, England. It was the song that all the women that I knew and did not know were singing. It was a strong mantra, a strong empowerment song for a type of social mobility for women. Women who wanted more from life.

One could listen to the song and come away with a view that there were some women who were sick and tired from living in a life of drudgery, with a male partner whom seemingly was not pulling his weight and bringing home an adequate wage to provide a decent home for the woman. That she was prepared to leave her ‘waste of space’ partner for another man who could support her with a comfortable lifestyle.

Another perspective being that a woman who had made her own income was in financial trouble and was not having a man cross the threshold of her home without him having sufficient funds in his pocket.

How many of you on your start to an affluent lifestyle had this mindset in your young adult life. Possibly still having this mindset in your mature years. That poor men are simply not moving you. That men with no backbone are not for you. That men with no social mobility are wasting your time.

In your affluence driven no nonsense state of mind, men are the bread winners, they are the ones to provide for their partner at all costs. In addition to this provision equation, you place yourself as a woman who is able to create her own income if she so chooses to do, because you must have the freedom to engage with a measure of financial independence without the curtailment of a monthly allowance from your partner. You want the experience of being an entrepreneur, of feeling like a businesswoman, of creating a small company. Of living your life to the fullest and being on equal terms with other affluent women. Not being seen as a brain dead Barbie, or an airhead Cindy. That just will not do on the trajectory that you want your life to travel upon.

When you finished school and started out on your first job you had great expectations for yourself. This included departing your family home and becoming affluent. You wanted to meet new and interesting people. You wanted a different life from that of your mother, your grandmother and other poverty mindset people of your family. To you, your family never really made a serious attempt to amount to anything. They stayed put and accepted the life that they were living. There was no desire to succeed in life. There was no desire to better educate themselves. There was no desire to move up in the world. That life that your family lived was not for you. You wanted more. You wanted to be in a relationship with a man who had money. Money, as you believed in it, was the essential oil that unfolded your desires for you.

You understood about debt collectors because you had moved into a residence with others who were untrustworthy and neglected all forms of responsibility. That these people held no shame and amassed debt at the place where you were paying rent to live and who had disappeared leaving everyone else at the house to pick up the pieces of their actions. Perhaps the landlord of the property had set in motion papers to throw you and the remaining tenants out of the property. This life was not for you. Now you had learned the hard way about living with complete strangers.

Not all strangers seemed to be like this but you had had enough of living with people who did not respect your space and your integrity. You; again, needed to move out and up.

Your experience of men who used you as a punching bag, or who used you as a cheap hotel, or who used you for sustaining their way of life was not for you. The older you aged the more you strived to become more self sufficient. Or you had a small job and wanted to be with a partner who was understanding and, most importantly, had a job that was well paid. As far as you were; and are, concerned ‘Time wasters need not apply’ within your life.

Love. Romance. Togetherness. These come at a price and it is this benchmark that you justify having relationships at.

Now several years later you are at the stage of life where you instinctively know what a partner can do for you, how much of an income your partner must have in order to be with you and the level of life security afforded to you. You are an affluent professional woman, or you are a HNW Woman, or you are an UHNW Woman and that is the way it is going to remain.

If you were to go back in time and speak to your younger Self perhaps the words of Ms. Guthrie’s song would be apt to your journey. As the song says:

Boy, nothing in life is free

That’s why I’m asking you what can you do for me,

I’ve got responsibilities

So I’m looking for a man whose got some money in his hands.

‘Cause nothing from nothing leaves nothing

You got to have something if you want to be with me,

Oh, life is too serious, love is too mysterious

A fly girl like me needs security.

‘Cause ain’t nothing going on but the rent,

You have got to have a J.O.B if you want to be with me.

No romance without finance.

No romance without finance.

If you are feeling ‘so-so’, or, not coping well during this Northern Hemisphere Winter season as you head into the mish-mash of festivities and invitations that have already commenced, through having risen within the status of being a HNW, UHNW or affluent professional woman; in addition to handling being 'different' as your place in society changes, drop this British lady an email. At this time of the year how are you feeling about the relationship with your own Self? The most important relationship in your life. How is that going? Write to me.

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